Responsibility is something that each of us must learn. We form a responsible character over time. Whether or not people are watching, individuals act in the proper way because they understand this is the right thing to do. Foster parents often must stress the importance of being responsible and help foster children develop related habits and act in a responsible manner.
A child in foster care may not have been exposed to these lessons. Being responsible involves exhibiting the proper behaviors, even when there is temptation to act otherwise. Foster children learn to respect others and show compassion for them, practice honesty, exhibit courage while standing up for principles, develop the self-control required to act on these principles, and maintain their self-respect.
Foster parents must show the children that trust is required to live together effectively. Trust leads to honesty and the children should be honest with both themselves and others. This is not always easy because it requires owning up to the way they feel about things, mistakes, and criticizing oneself. Foster children should learn from their mistakes and correct them rather than dwelling on them.
Peer pressure comes into play for teen foster children, who must draw on this to resist doing things like drugs or drinking. Self-control is especially important in these situations but also involves dealing appropriately with emotions that foster children are bound to experience, like anger. Throughout their lives, foster children should carry themselves with self-respect and resist negative behaviors like selfishness and recklessness.
When they are in foster care, one of the best lessons children can learn is to be responsible. These lessons will allow them to develop a strong conscience and resist manipulation from others to do things that are inappropriate. Foster parents must help their children develop these high standards because they are the temporary adult role models.