Sometimes, we have a goal in sight and only see a straight path to achieving it. Often, an alternate route presents opportunities that can be missed if one’s eyes are not open to it. Such is the case with couples interested in adoption. For them, the path to becoming an adoptive parent is not always the straightest one.
Both domestic and international adoptions can be expensive. This often puts an adopted child out of reach for a couple. In this situation, becoming a foster parent may be an alternative. Some couples overlook this arrangement and then come to realize it is actually the perfect solution to their dilemma. Rather than being heartbroken after becoming attached to a foster child who then leaves, they find themselves emotionally rewarded for a lifetime.
When faced with the thought of a child sitting in a youth shelter, many couples change their way of thinking about fostering. As adults, they realize that the potential for heartbreak is small compared to what that child has already experienced. They understand they need to risk their heart being broken in order to help a child who cannot help him or herself.
Making the decision to foster a child when adoption is really the desire is not always easy to do. However, some couples realize that it is all part of the plan designed for their lives. Though it may take years to terminate the rights of the biological parents, they are willing to wait, even though this may test their patience.
Often, the foster child has siblings, which presents another opportunity for the couple. Many foster parents believe it is important to keep the biological siblings together and they take steps to foster and then adopt all of them. What started as a road directly to adoption takes different turns, with foster care serving as an intermediary step.